High-Five to Our Girls!
So I took my kids to their class this weekend — the class they take that allows me to run with my favorite person in the world every week — only to find out that my 11-year old’s class was cancelled. With my usual running partner out of town, I got excited. My daughter, one of my most favorite people in the world, too, could keep me company! I really don’t like to run alone. So I asked her if she would. And she laughed and said “Yes!” Yippee!
She grabbed her bike, I grabbed my shoes and off we went. It was a riot. Every uphill had me laughing at her as she pushed her bike up. And every downhill had her harassing me, as she soared past me screaming, weeee! Even with all this passing each other, though, we managed to enjoy a pretty insightful conversation about make-up, of all things. She shocked me. Some girls in school are wearing eye-liner and mascara, making their eyes look really dark, she said. “It gives me the creeps,” she said.
So I asked her about why she thinks they are wearing make-up. And hold on to your seats, she tells me that other girls are getting their hair highlighted. One girl has started wearing blue eye shadow. It’s all making her feel funny, she told me. I asked her, why? She said that she doesn’t like what her friends look like with all of that make-up on. But now she wants to start wearing it, too. Why? I asked. She said she wasn’t sure, but she just feels like it. I said no. Sorry. You’re 11. No.
Can you get over this? C’mon! She’s 11. 6th grade.
We finished our run/bike ride with a lot of laughs between us. She didn’t say she was disappointed about the whole make-up thing. And I did suggest to her that maybe the girls wearing make-up in her class really just want some attention. Or maybe they’re dying to fit in with some other girl who’s wearing make-up, too. But I was so glad to hear that she has a bunch of friends that don’t wear any make-up at all. Whew!
All-in-all, I was tickled to hear about all of it. I wonder if she would have ever told me if we hadn’t gone for that run/ride. Maybe I’ve just gotten myself a new running partner! Or at least another favorite one.
Can’t we offer them some really cool ways to get that attention without fostering gobs of make-up of all things?
This morning I found this uber cool organization that I guess started in Boston, called Strong Women Strong Girls. I love it. It’s all about getting strong women together to mentor girls to help maintain a positive, goal-oriented focus in today’s girl. I’ll have to check it out. In the meantime…
Let’s give a high-five to our smart, savvy girls who are beautiful, joyful and full of great ideas. Here’s to you, girls!
May your next run be a good one.
Rebecca